Usually,
the loop holes of infertility are exploited by men to defend themselves. In Christianity a second marriage is allowed after the death of the first wife. But nowadays, according to some people, another set of text justifies a
husband taking another wife –infertility.
This is not an issue to argue over. I mean, what’s
the purpose of marriage if not for procreation? If my wife is infertile, its
common sense to know that i should take another wife. Do you expect me to
sit there and be childless for the rest of my life because of love?
The issue is relative; you shouldn’t force your
opinion on others. Personally, I wouldn’t advice that. My opinion is this; I’ll
advice the man to allow his conscience to judge him. First ask yourself, “Why
did I get married? What attracted me to this woman? Just pause and think if you
truly love her, or did you just marry her because you wanted children?
If not for children, how do we create a family? I
mean, if she’s considerate like Sarah of the Bible (laughs), she’ll even be the
one to get me a wife like Sara did to Abraham. The plan is always to get
married, have children and live happily ever after. But if she doesn’t have
children, how will this goal be reached? Don’t you hear people say “I want my
babies to look like you”? Now tell me, are babies not important in a union?
Look, I get your point, I’m not disputing the fact
that babies are important in a marriage, all I’m saying is that the other
person’s feelings should be considered too. What’s wrong with discussing it
out with by your spouse? –I mean, exploring other options like adopting a
child?
Yeah, that’s when you’re talking. Or maybe I’ll just
get a woman for procreation, and then continue with my main wife.
But have you considered the division you’ll introduce
when you bring another woman to your fold? Or do you think a woman will
just allow you impregnate her and still marry another woman?
The issue of
choosing another partner due to infertility is a matter of choice and
understanding, and it’s solely relative. Couple should understand each other
and discuss it over -pray, and probably see a councilor before taking decision.
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