Should a man take another wife if his first is infertile?

 

Usually, the loop holes of infertility are exploited by men to defend themselves.  In Christianity a second marriage is allowed after the death of the first wife. But nowadays, according to some people, another set of text justifies a husband taking another wife –infertility.

This is not an issue to argue over. I mean, what’s the purpose of marriage if not for procreation? If my wife is infertile, its common sense to know that i should take another wife. Do you expect me to sit there and be childless for the rest of my life because of love?

 The issue is relative; you shouldn’t force your opinion on others. Personally, I wouldn’t advice that. My opinion is this; I’ll advice the man to allow his conscience to judge him. First ask yourself, “Why did I get married? What attracted me to this woman? Just pause and think if you truly love her, or did you just marry her because you wanted children?

If not for children, how do we create a family? I mean, if she’s considerate like Sarah of the Bible (laughs), she’ll even be the one to get me a wife like Sara did to Abraham. The plan is always to get married, have children and live happily ever after. But if she doesn’t have children, how will this goal be reached? Don’t you hear people say “I want my babies to look like you”? Now tell me, are babies not important in a union?

 Look, I get your point, I’m not disputing the fact that babies are important in a marriage, all I’m saying is that the other person’s feelings should be considered too. What’s wrong with discussing it out with by your spouse? –I mean, exploring other options like adopting a child?

Yeah, that’s when you’re talking. Or maybe I’ll just get a woman for procreation, and then continue with my main wife.

But have you considered the division you’ll introduce when you bring another woman to your fold? Or do you think a woman will just allow you impregnate her and still marry another woman?

The issue of choosing another partner due to infertility is a matter of choice and understanding, and it’s solely relative. Couple should understand each other and discuss it over -pray, and probably see a councilor before taking decision. 

Should President Buhari remove Fuel subsidy?

 

The World Bank has advised President Muhammad Buhari to remove fuel subsidy forthwith, saying now is the best time to do so. Government spent over 6 trillion on fuel subsidy between 2006 -2010. Analysts say, the only answer to fuel scarcity is fuel subsidy removal and deregulation of downstream sector. US Former secretary of state Hilary Clinton said, ''Nigeria produces crude oil and yet import fuel. It is a clear case of mismanagement.''

if President Muhammad Buhari should remove fuel subsidy, oil producing companies, foreign investors and private individuals will build refineries in Nigeria. The huge amount of money corrupt independent oil markets collect from government will stop.

President Buhari should listen to World Bank on fuel subsidy removal because the country looses so much of money on fuel subsidy. A breakdown of the subsidy payments showed $1.818 billion was spent in 2011; $2.63 billion in 2012; $3.26 billion in 2013; and $3.14 billion for 2014.  The only way to end fuel scarcity is to remove fuel subsidy this will make foreign investors and private investors build refineries, importation will stop and prices will become competitive and eventually fall. As we speak Alhaji Aliko Dangote is already building refinery at lekki area of Lagos state.  Yes the cabals and fraudulent oil marketers will no longer have their cakes as usual. It will reduce the high rate of corruption in the sector.

 How will Nigerians react if the president remove fuel subsidy knowing fully well what happened during previous administration? The partial removal of subsidy increase the prices of petroleum products under President Jonathan.

The most important thing is proper sensitization and enlightenment of Nigerians on the immense benefits of fuel subsidy removal. Once the government will explain to ordinary Nigerian before fuel subsidy removal.

 Government must wake up to reality and remove fuel subsidy without delay. The only way to end fuel scarcity and fight corruption in the oil sector is to remove subsidy. Fuel subsidy removal will benefit Nigerians because oil prices will eventually fall as a result. President Buhari should remove fuel subsidy.

SHOULD MUSLIMS BE BANNED FROM ENTERING THE UNITED STATES?

U.S presidential candidate Donald Trump has called for a "total and complete shutdown of Muslims entering the United States," immigrants and visitors alike, because of what he describes as hatred among "large segments of the Muslim population" toward Americans. Trump's proposal is linked to last week's killings in California by Pakistan-born female shooter  and Muslim, Tashfeen Malik and her husband. While majority of Muslims admit that she has done a very bad thing, however should the whole Muslim nations be punished over the acts of some individuals. If this ban is imposed, many students won't be able to go and study in the United States. Furthermore, the case of Nigerian underwear bomber, Abdulmutallab who was sentenced to life imprisonment is still very fresh in mind.

It's true that there are Muslim extremists, those who don't have good intentions for Islam. But there are 1.7 billion Muslim people in the world. If we were all bad, then the world would be uninhabitable."  Donald Trump's proposal is the wrong way to address last week's attack in California: "He could better improve the situation if he were to say, 'Let the U.S. take guns more seriously and ban them.' That one simple solution would be much more suitable and make the streets of America far safer."

Some of other school of thought says, Trump's statement reflected political desperation. "Donald Trump's statement is a desperate statement by a desperate man who knows that he's clutching at straws and has no chance of winning the election. So he's trying to win it off the back of the Islam p industry."

Other opinions say Trump has good reasons to make such a proposal considering all that the United states have suffered in the hands of terrorists. Should this proposal be encouraged. 

What to do when sex is dull in your marriage

Is your sex life in a rut? This is a question that every couple would need to answer at some point, no matter how good its sex life is at the moment. One of the biggest challenges that couples who have succeeded in evolving a mutually satisfactory sex life always face is monotony. When monotony sets in, complacency follows and these two are always bad news. Couples need to make periodic appraisals of their sex lives to either prevent monotony or kick it out. Sex can be dull or monotonous in Marriages. It can even die altogether. A woman visits a counsellor to complain that a husband, a Professor hardly have time for sex. According to her they do it, once or twice a year!



In this kind of relationship, the marriage is about to die unless urgent action is taken. Sex is very crucial in a relationship. Generally, after a period of passion, things cool down for most couples. When this happens, it should not be viewed with any form of alarm. It is natural for things to cool down a bit when the newness of a new relationship begins to wear off. But couples must never let their passion fade away. They should put up creativity and effort. However, some individuals get so entangled in career pursuits that sex begin to slip into the most remote corners of the mind or they completely lose interest in it after years of marriage. This should not be.

Communication is key. You can reignite your sex life and stay hot for each other once you notice that the waves are ebbing. The good thing is that you can do this on a continual basis. What your sex life needs is a little variation in the way you do things. You can go on a vacation together, just the two of you without the kids. A change of environment often ignite fresh passion. It is important to call about this things. Lack of communication is often the first killer of passion. Express love to each other as often as you can.

Relaxing on the sofa together, Sharing a warm bath or gentle rhythmic massage prior to sex can also bind souls. Also couples need to explore the latent power of kisses more. The good thing about kissing is that even when you don’t feel like doing it, once you start, you may find yourself getting into the flow rather quickly. That peck on the cheek whenever you stumble into one another in those few private places in the house, should be turned into full blown sensual kisses that would make you do passionate things. Never for one think that passion of yesteryears is gone forever, it is still in there. All you need to do is awaken it.