Why do many successful women remain single

Why do many successful women remain single

Yetunde, a successful career woman, highly intelligent, beautiful and educated, 43 years of age, single  and searching.  Why?  Why do we have so many single Nigerian women, doing well in their various fields with no husbands.  This could be a big problem in the Nigerian society as our  culture places a lot of value on being married particularly if one is a woman.  Should marriage determine a woman's happiness or unhappiness. Are all married women happy? Are all single women miserable ?  Why are there so many great, beautiful single women out there looking for love, but not being able to find it or only find married men!

If by the time you graduate from school, everyone of your classmates has already been paired off like animals on Noah’s Ark by the time the last year rolls around, and within the next 5 years you hear a flurry of engagements, weddings, and even babies popping out in record time but your still remain single because your last two dates did not lead to marriage and so was the ones before the last. Your parents will start calling you for special family meetings and prayers and if you are unlucky to have come from a very religious backgrounds, you could be classified as a victim of witchcraft forces. You have to go for special prayers and deliverance.  What is the best approach to this problem? Should marriage determine a person's happiness?

When this problem is mentioned, people say, it’s because the women are too choosy, which is the reason why they basically choose to be single. Others, cite that it’s because the women are too successful (career-wise and financially), too intelligent or too beautiful and therefore too intimidating to men in general.

If smart girls have dated guys and still haven’t really clicked or found anyone, then they’re choosing to stay single rather than be with someone they’re not 100% happy with. I believe that marriage is not necessarily the only source of happiness for anyone. Happiness is internal not external. It should come from within you and not outside you.

First, why must any human being be defined by his or her marital status? Is an unmarried woman less of a human being than a married one? Even the Bible makes it clear that marriage is voluntary. Unless you accept other texts that seek to explain Jesus Christ’s earthly life. He was single.

‘Marriage is the crowning glory of a woman.’ ‘A woman without a husband is incomplete.’ You hear these statements from our parents. This reveals one factor about the typical Nigerian, he is largely bound to his ancestors’ way of life. This is not necessarily bad because one must have roots with which to grow in the world. However, in the days of old, polygamy was the norm and hardly any woman was found without a husband. Today, the popularity of polygamy has waned even among Muslims. How should single unmarried career Nigerian women cope with the pressure from family and society.

The plight of prostitutes in Nigeria

 

A prostitute was found dead at a refuse dump in Olomore, Abeokuta area of Ogun state on Sunday, August 2, 2015. The dead body looked like the dark-skinned lady was tortured before she died as one of her arms had a deep cut. Her body was however removed later in the day as no one could identify who she was.
On the 4th of August, about 50 members of the Nigeria Association of Prostitutes trooped out to the Ogun state branch of the Nigerian Union of Journalists’ Press centre, Abeokuta. They said the murdered lady was one of their members who was killed by a ritualistic customer. They demanded that the police help find their colleague’s killer, asking for protection for their other members. They said one of their members is missing for a while now.


Few months ago, the Special Task Force on City Cleaning and Management in the Federal Capital Territory arrested no fewer than three thousand commercial sex workers in Abuja. In April, a non-governmental organization, Civil Society for HIV/AIDS in Nigeria, assisted by World Bank and the State Action Committee on HIV/Aids, launched an unusual project. They planned to empower 154 sex workers in Gombe state to discourage them from prostitution.
               
In the United Kingdom for example, prostitution is not a crime, in fact prostitutes are protected by the police and the law. Prostitutes are free to report suspected criminals to the police without fear. It has been argued that prostitution itself is not a crime. Many responsible men who openly condemn prostitution patronise them at nights. The law of demand and supply as made prostitution a part of our life in Nigeria. Shouldn't the federal government take another look at the plight of Nigerian prostitutes, stop the arrests and look towards their welfare? Most of them are driven to prostitution because of poverty and they are citizens of our great country.Instead of the usual holier than thou attaitude, Nigeria should put their hypocricy asside and look towards the pllight of the Nigerian prostitutes and how to protect them from harm. It is easier to fight human trafficking when prostitution is not a crime.

 

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO SAY SORRY?

 

A lot of couples could have saved themselves much pain, agonies and tension in their relationship if only they know how to get the three words out easily; ''I am sorry.'' As easy as those words sound, it can become very difficult for people to utter it whether in marriage or in professional relationships. Reports reveal that people sometimes find it extremely difficult to say, I am sorry.  It takes humility to admits one's mistakes, although, The word can prevent violent temper, and unnecessary difficulty in relationships. How can we learn to say sorry more easily? Why is it so hard for many people? It is hard to say, I am sorry because the ego gets in the way. It has been said that this problem is peculiar with men and that men have a problem saying sorry to their wives even when they are wrong or at fault. Is this true?  People sometimes feel an apology is in order only when they are 100 percent at fault. When two people said bad things to each other, where is the need to say sorry?  People are often too embarrassed  to admit they are wrong.  This problem is not limited to marriage, bosses find it difficult to say sorry to their subordinates or employees whereas the word, sorry, though simple can ease a lot of tension. Why do people find it difficult say sorry? Is it a problem with men alone? Do women also fall into the same problem? How can sorry help us build a healthy and solid  relationships with others., since we all err. Should we say sorry only when we are at fault? hese six steps outline a helpful approach: 

This steps outline a helpful approach:

                     Be truly sorry that you upset the other party. ...
- Acknowledge the hurt done, and take responsibility for making amends. ... - Commit to not letting it happen again. ...  - Express appreciation for having the other person in your life. ...  - Ask for forgiveness.

HOW SHOULD MEN PREVENT PROSTRATE CANCER

 

In 1999, there were approximately 334,888 new cases of prostate cancer in the United States of America, leading to 41,000 deaths. This disease occurs most frequently in elderly men 72 years and above. In Nigeria, statistics for the number of new cases and deaths are not kept for this preventable disease. Nevertheless, many Nigerian men suffer from this problem and when they suffer, so is their loved ones.

For all Asian men, the incidence of this cancer is relatively low. It is not known what causes this racial difference, but it has been said that genetics play a part. Reports say, diet is another factor that cannot be ruled out, as African American soul food closely mimics many Nigerian diets of pork, beans and greens cooked with plenty of oil and fat. This is therefore a Black Man’s disease that Nigerian men should be concerned about.

As they say, prevention is better than cure. How can Nigerian men prevent Prostrate cancer or enlargement. Is there some diet, men can follow when they are young or some exercises they should engage in to prevent it from occurring in their older years? Resource persons should be medical doctors, experts, nurses and men who have suffered from Prostate cancer themselves.

In 1999, there were approximately 334,888 new cases of prostate cancer in the United States of America, leading to 41,000 deaths. This disease occurs most frequently in elderly men 72 years and above. In Nigeria, statistics for the number of new cases and deaths are not kept for this preventable disease. Nevertheless, many Nigerian men suffer from this problem and when they suffer, so is their loved ones.

For all Asian men, the incidence of this cancer is relatively low. It is not known what causes this racial difference, but it has been said that genetics play a part. Reports say, diet is another factor that cannot be ruled out, as African American soul food closely mimics many Nigerian diets of pork, beans and greens cooked with plenty of oil and fat. This is therefore a Black Man’s disease that Nigerian men should be concerned about.

As they say, prevention is better than cure. How can Nigerian men prevent Prostrate cancer or enlargement. Is there some diet, men can follow when they are young or some exercises they should engage in to prevent it from occurring in their older years?